Happy Valentines weekend everyone!
As we celebrate and share with our loved ones how much we care about them and appreciate them, how many of you showed yourself that same love and appreciation?
Last year, if I was asked that same question I would have looked quite puzzled. However, through my learnings, I am discovering that in order to find true happiness, you have to start from the inside, and love yourself first.
This was certainly not an easy task for me. I grew up believing that loving yourself is conceited and arrogant, and was told time and time again that these were not good qualities to have. This was a bit of a deep rooted belief that I needed to change before I could start to consider to love myself.
I also grew up trying to please everyone. For different situations and events, I focused on how I thought everyone else expected me to act, and had no consideration into how I wanted to be. Unconsciously, I put the pressure on myself to try to figure out how to be ‘perfect’ for everyone. Trying to please everyone led to much failure and disappointment. But not only that, more and more, I was hiding who I was. I was doing this so often, it came to be that I didn’t know who that was.
So, being confused and stressed out, I decided to go on my journey of self-discovery. With lots of help from my class mates, and other life coaches and guides, I am working on these limiting beliefs and am starting to really get to know the true me. It certainly has not been easy, and has been time consuming, but the effort and setbacks thus far has been very worthwhile.
I have come to believe more and more that as physical beings, we are extensions of the non-physical. I have been told that for every physical birth, there are 1000 or more souls competing to become that physical being, with the intention to learn their own life lessons and purpose.
Consider as you watch any of the Olympic coverage, that at birth, YOU won the Gold medal to be YOU! Your life is your journey to live your life as the best YOU that YOU can be. No one else can even compete with you in that race – only you. We are all different, and that is what makes each and every one of us special in our own right. We all come here to offer our unique gifts to humanity. By being someone you are not-whether due to peer pressure, or habit- is depriving others from receiving the gift that is you.
So, what have you come here to do? For me, I am still not sure on that, but I am taking one day at a time. I have been meditating (well learning to), and working with my peers and colleagues on my path of self-discovery (THANK YOU!). I am trusting that my higher self – the one voice I had not been listening to my entire life (and to some degree did not believe existed) – does know what my life purpose is, and will help me along my journey through the lessons I came here to learn. If I choose to listen, I can be guided and inspired to take action and live my life purpose.
I am not under the illusion that this mindset will change my immediate environment, but it does change my perception. I have asked for these life lessons, so I might as well enjoy the process of learning them rather that choosing to stress about them. Who am I pleasing by getting stressed out? Certainly not me!
Whether your life purpose is to be a great athlete and win gold at the Olympics, or to be a face in the crowd and support those who do go for the gold, all you can do is be the best YOU that you can be. If that means a bit of struggle along the way, or lots of difficult training, it is up to you to choose how you perceive that struggle: as something you are to learn from and grow and enhance your life’s purpose; or as another stress to deal with. Ask yourself which one feels more empowering, then decide which path to take.
So on this valentines weekend (and everyday) allow yourself to take some time to show the most important person in your life how much you appreciate them being in your life, and that you do love them. If it hasn’t clicked in yet – that person is you.
To quote the great and late Whitney H.– ‘Learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all.’ I am on that path of learning. Hopefully, this post inspires you to start or continue on that journey for you.
Big (virtual) hugs to you all! Happy Valentines!
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