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About Susie Ennis

Join me as I share my insights, tips and tricks in applying the Law of Attraction and other Universal laws to your life.

Success

How often do you celebrate your successes? How often do you do a million things right, one thing wrong and harp on the one thing wrong?

I know I often did whether it be in my work on projects – when went wrong, what happened, how can we ‘fix’ it to get it back on track? Or on the sports teams I was a part of – again what went wrong, what can we do to ‘fix’ it? As well as other areas of my life. But until recently, it never dawned on me to consider the successes. And when I did have success, to me, it didn’t feel like what I thought success would feel like. It didn’t feel as good as what I had hoped that result would bring, and I am learning why!

“Life is a journey, not a destination” I can hear that Aerosmith lyric in my head. And that is what I am learning: to enjoy the process, the journey, the little successes along the way to really enjoy getting to where I want to be.

But really, we can only be where we are now. The result of the choices we made in the past brings us to the present moment. Some may have been good choices, some not so good, but all were choices and lessons along the way.  It is the choices we make today that shape our future. Worrying and/ or dwelling on the past will not improve the future. Worrying about the future will only bring the low energy into the future. Enjoy the now to bring the high energy into the future.

Yes, I still do think it is important to acknowledge where things went ‘off track’ (but not wrong) so that we can correct the course – like a GPS – to get up closer to where we want to go. Certainly not ignore them, but also not to harp on them. However, it is even more important to acknowledge and celebrate what went right. The Law of Attraction states something like ‘what we focus on we get more of’. So if we focus on the ‘problems’, we get more of them. If we focus on the ‘successes’, we get more of them.

My challenge for you this week, acknowledge and feel the little success you have each day. I know you have them! In fact, write them down in a journal – a ‘Success Journal’ – at last 5 success you had today, an continue each day for one week, regardless of how large or small they may seem. As you consider the success, connect with them by feeling them in your body, Give yourself a pat on the back. You do deserve it. At the end of the week review your list of successes and feel them again. Observe how things shift for you when it comes to enjoying the now.

Please comment/ share your experiences on the Susie’s Insights Facebook page (www.facebook.com/SusiesInsights/ or you can email me (Susie@SusiesInsights.com) to share your celebration.

To your success!
Susie

Happy Mother’s Day

This Sunday, May 10th 2015 is celebrated in North America as Mother’s Day – a day many of us show gratitude and appreciation for our birth mothers (or motherly role models in our lives) and or women who have given birth to our children.

Although I am not a mother, I too will be celebrating. I am privileged to be in the same geographic area as my mother, and my mother will be joining my family as we prepare a traditional Newfoundland ‘jiggs dinner’ and turkey with all the trimmings at our weekend cabin/ cottage/ retreat (whatever you wish to call it).

My mother is the most loving person I know. She genuinely cares about everyone she meets, and has a fun, playful demeanor that brings a smile to those in her presence. I can only hope to be as genuine and uplifting as she seems to do naturally.

As we take to time to celebrate our Mother’s present and past, I ask that we not forget Mother Earth, a mother who has supported us all. If the snow holds up (yes it is snowing in Newfoundland right now :(, when earlier this week it was actually 17 C (~62 F)… Mother Nature is teaching us to be strong) I plan on doing some gardening and fertilizing the perennials as my way of giving back to Mother Earth, or it just may be giving thanks.

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Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers out there. I hope you truly have a spectacular day, and know how special you are, not just this coming Sunday, but every day.

With love and gratitude,

Susie

Susie Ennis
Susie’s Insights
http://www.SusiesInsights.com

Time

Have you felt you just do not have enough time to do all the things you want to do? Well, my friend, I am here to remind you that everyone has the same amount of time in the run of a day, week or year. It is up to us to decide how we use that time.

Time is our only non-renewable resource. Money, we can always make choices to make and receive more money, but we cannot get more time. We may be able to extend deadlines to have ‘more’ time to complete something, but the time still has passed.

So how do we make the most of what time we have? Enjoy every moment, that’s how.

“Easier said than done” I hear, when all around us is evidence of lack and not having enough. I  wish to challenge you that all around you is also evidence of abundance. Yes, the ‘glass is half full, or half empty’ mentality. Really, the glass is always full, some liquid, some air, but always full.

Somehow, we have come to learn to complain about things not going our way, and that this pratice is okay. Misery loves company. How often do we witness someone complain about how terrible their day, or weekend was for someone else to join in and say, “You think that is bad, this is what I went through…” to ‘one up’ the misery. Yet, when someone talks about how great their weekend was the general thought is something to bring down that person, maybe talk about them behind their back, or even ‘eye rolling’, and possibly to leave you thinking “it couldn’t have been that good”. Somehow this would make you feel better. But does it?  I do not believe it does.

It is up to you to choose which to focus upon: the lack, not having enough, being jealous of what others have and wonder why you do not have it? Or to focus on the abundance all around you, there is enough, and being grateful for all that you have and have ever had, and be inspired by others successes, celebrating them, and thinking, “If you can do it, you know, so can I, if I put my mind to it, figure out the path to take and work at it, I can do it too.”

Sometimes it is easier to do nothing and blame others, and have a ‘pity party’ for yourself. But does that feel good? Isn’t that giving your power away, and leaving you feeling bad about yourself? It can be the easier route, but is that what you want?

It can be hard to take inspired action, maybe even a lot of work, effort and energy to put towards your goals for a better life, but if you enjoy doing that work, is all that work effort, energy, and time worth it? It can be risky and even scary at times to step into the unknown. It may be harder, but it also feels better than doing nothing, and staying the same status quo, especially if you allow yourself to enjoy the work, effort and energy while you are doing it, and making progress.

“How,” you ask? Decide what is important to you, whatever that is for you, as everyone has different goals and inspirations.

  • Decide: Be okay with that decision. Yes, it may mean that other things have to wait for now. But decide for you and be okay with that decision. See success with that decision and what that is for you, visualize it and feel it.
  • Take inspired actionAnd not only work, include rest and play along with that work.
  • Enjoy it: Enjoy every step so no moment feels like wasted time. If you do run into some problems or wrong turns, instead of looking at it as a failure, maybe consider the lesson that is there that you needed to learn. At times you may find you no longer enjoy it.. At that point ask yourself how important is this still to you and decide for you, your goals and dreams what continuing on this path means for you. If it is something you want, find a way to enjoy it. If it is not longer for you, make a new decidion, take a new direction and be okay with that decision.

Regardless, the choice in what action you take and ultimately how you feel is up to you. You can decide to stay right where you are, feeling what you are feeling, or you can choose to decide to do somethign that feels better for you. That is up to you.

What choice will you take?

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It is your choice…

Today is the birthday of a friend of mine.  It got me thinking and reflecting  of how much we change, yet how much we remain the same.

From what I have been learning and applying to my life, I realized how much I have grown and changed for the better of the over the past few years. All of this is because of choices I made with the information I received.

Everything we do is based on a choice, usually with some desire for life to be better, feel happier. All too often though, we get stuck thinking we do not have a choice. I know I felt that way for a long time. But you do have a choice. No matter what your situation is right now, it is your choice to stay where you are or to do something about it.

As humans we naturally do not like change, but we all want something better, and hope that some how by doing the same things over and over things will get better. In order for things to get better, we have to shift the feeling within us. We have to do the internal work, stretch ourselves to take the inspired action to make those changes to better our lives.

However, no matter what we do, it will not change another person. The other person has to make the decision to change themselves. We can only change ourselves, no matter how hard we try. Our thoughts, our beliefs, our actions, are all our choice – whether consciously or not. Others thoughts and beliefs are not yours, but theirs. It is up to them to believe what they what, as it is up to you to choose what you believe for you.

The next time you find yourself doing something you do not want to do ask yourself why are you doing it – to make someone else ‘happy’, or to make yourself happy? It is not your job in life to make someone else happy – that is their job. Your job is to choose happiness in all that you choose to do, so that you are being happy now. Doing something that does make you happy and it happens to make someone else happy is a bonus.

I totally get that this is easier said than done, especially when life throws us some challenges. I never said that making these choices are easy. But it is your choice to stay stuck in the negativity and low feeling emotions, or to choose to change how you look at things, how you feel about things, and ultimately what you choose to do about it. You choose where you put your focus.

What is worse? Staying where you are, while others around you change, or stretching a little, taking back control of your life, taking back your power to believe what you want and do what you want, while taking ownership and responsibility for that? Maybe taking that action will not bring you exactly what you want, but did it bring you any closer to where you want to be? Will staying the same bring you any close to what you want? Usually not.

I have often heard the quote’ a leopard will never change its spots’ but I want to point out we are not leopards. We have a choice in everything we do, and once we take responsibility for the choices we make, and the actions we choose to do, we become empowered, and feeling that can be life changing. We can choose to stay the same, or to stretch and grow and create a better life for ourselves.

I know my stress levels have decreased quite a bit. I have chosen to stop (or stop myself when I do) comparing myself to others, and just allow others to be who they are. Who am I to judge them? I may not agree with them or their choices, but it is then my choice if I want to be apart of their life or have them a part of my life.  This has taken a lot of internal work for me, and I continue to do so with the help of the coaches I consult with regularly. A lot of time, coaching others also brings me those ah-ha moments.

If you are feeling stuck or that you do not have a choice in an unpleasant circumstance, and do not see how you can make a change or a different choice, reach out to a coach. Most can help you see your circumstance in a non-judgmental different light to help you acknowledge what you want and help you to choose your next step.

The choice is yours.

To your health and happiness,
Susie

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What is Coaching?

Since starting my coaching practice I have been asked a lot “What is coaching? What happens during a session?”  So I decided to share my typical response.

What is coaching? First, what it is not. I am not a ‘shrink’/ psychiatrist, psychologist, or therapist. Although, I have gone through specialized training in coaching and various techniques, I do not prescribe, diagnose, treat, fix, advise or counsel you to do anything.

So what do I do? I support you as you achieve a certain outcome, whatever that is for you. I see your brilliance, strengths, as well as your areas in need of improvement. I ask you powerful, direct questions, all in complete confidence. Based on your responses, I provide my insight, perspectives and suggestions to inspire you to take action toward your goal.

My focus is on helping professional women who are stressed and overwhelmed with all they have to do (whether for work, home and whatever else they may be involved in) get unstuck from their overwhelm and focus on what they really want so they can enjoy what they do, and return to loving life. Life is meant to be fun, after all.

What happens during a session? Just about every session is different as it depends on you, but for the most part I follow a structure where I ask you a lot of questions so that you become clear as to why you are on the call and what you would like to get out of your session. After a lot of questions I take you through a series of techniques custom selected for your situation to help you attain clarity and focus with your issue, frustration, struggle or situation.

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Keep in mind that no one else is the authority on your life but you.

No one else has lived your life to know what you have been and are going through. Even close siblings and close friends do not know what you truly have been going through, only you. So I will not tell you that I understand or know how you feel about your situation – because I don’t. However, my style of coaching will help you accept where you are now, focus on what you want and inspire you to take action. Before the end of the call I will hold you accountable to do what you say you will do.

So how does this help you?

How often do you find yourself faced with a dilemma or several choices of what to do, and in the moment you really do not know which one to take? If you only had someone else to run by these ideas or options and get their opinion on which one to take. Maybe you are great at making decisions, but find you are making the wrong ones, and think if only I had someone to have discussed this with first, maybe I would have not made the wrong decision. I am not saying by working with a coach you will not make wrong decisions, but working with a coach will help you get clearer, faster on what option or direction for you to choose to take.

Consider what your biggest obstacle, frustration, or struggle is that you are faced with right now. What is that costing you in time or money or both? What do you want instead? What would it mean to you to have a clear direction that you feel is right for you? This is where a coach can help. I do not know what you are going through. Only you do. But how I help is to help you cut through the ‘BS’ and your self-doubt to help you make a decision on what to do next. Through different techniques that for the most part feel like a conversation, you get clear on what you want and what to do next, and you feel good about making that choice. Only you can decide how valuable that is to you.

If you are on the fence to give it a try, sign up for one of my complementary 30 min sessions. For a limited time, I have opened my calendar for 4 of these complementary sessions a week. After that, space will be limited as my calendar fills up.

So what’s stopping you? What’s the worst that can happen? You have a confidential conversation where you talk through your issue and you leave the call a little clearer than when you dialed in. If you do not get anything more, no harm done.

Go to my website and submit the contact form to request your complementary session. If you don’t someone else will, and certainly that will not help you with your issue, frustration, or struggle.

To your success and happiness,
Susie

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It’s A Magical Day! March 20th, 2015

Did you know this Friday, March 20th is a very magical day? There will be a new moon + a solar eclipse + the Spring Equinox all occurring on the same day! The next time these natural phenomenon will occur all together is in 2034. What are you going to do to make this day a special day?

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It will be an excellent day to focus your intentions on getting a fresh new start in some aspect of your life that you are ready to change. It’s like getting a super-blast of astrological poser behind your intentions!

Things you could focus on during this power day:

  • Self care (like a Reiki and or coaching session! 🙂 )
  • Goal Setting
  • Mending relationships
  • Healthy eating and exercise
  • De-clutter and organization
  • Budgeting and planning for your future
  • Travel planning
  • Anything that is important to you.

4 Steps to Changing Anything you want:

  1. Decide: Decide what you wish to be different. Simply saying the words “I’ve decided…” are extremely powerful.
  2. Vision: Spend some time visioning yourself already having that thing you want. Open yourself up to seeing new possibilities.
  3. Brainstorm: make a list of actions you could take right now. Doesn’t mean you have to do all of them – just brainstorm a list of ideas. When I’m working on something big, I like to make a list of options and then see what feels right.
  4. Act: Pick one of those actions and do it right away. Action breeds momentum. It gets the energy flowing and enlists the Law of Attraction on your side to bring you what you want.

What’s really important is that you open up to new possibilities and spend some time seeing yourself having the new conditions you want – that’s how to get the Law of Attraction working in your favour. Close your eyes and try to see yourself already having it!

If you would like some assistance with this and or receive a Reiki session,  email me (Susie@SusiesInsights.com) and we can arrange a call.

I would love to hear how you celebrated this magical day. Take a photo and post on my Facebook site (https://facebook.com/SusiesInsights/), and like the page if you haven’t already. If this post inspired you, please share with your friends.

Most of all – enjoy the feeling and have fun with it.

To your happiness and success,
Susie

Pleasing others… how succesful have you been with that?

I came across a FB post today that was very timing for me, and of course felt the need to share my insight around pleasing others.

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How often do you agree to do things you do not want to do to please others? I used to always do this – put others before myself – and still catch myself every once in a while. Until I really learned about respecting my boundaries I did not even acknowledge what I wanted in the situation, but was content (or so I thought) to go along with what others wanted. And then I would wonder why I did not feel respected when I did voice what it was I wanted.

But more and more, as I am learning to respect my boundaries, and saying ‘no’ to others, I am receiving that respect for what it is I want.

So, when you find yourself in this dilemma of not wanting to do something that you think would please someone else stop and ask yourself what do you want for you, and give yourself permission to choose what you want. But make sure you are clear about what you want, as sometimes doing what you may feel uncomfortable doing my just be a stretch to help you grow.

Keep but keep in mind that sometimes saying yes to others is like saying no to you. Recognize your boundaries, and say yes to you. You cannot make anyone else happy – that is their job. Choose to do things that make you happy.

To our happiness,
Susie

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International Self-Love Day – celebrate yourself!

Today is February 13 – International Self-love day.

To celebrate this day, I made a commitment to start a blog in February and to post something regarding self-love. In one of the many email lists I am subscribed to I came across an email and website by Christine Arylo www.chooseselflove.com and www.madlyinlovewithme.com and I felt compelled to join the organization and sign up as a Love Ambassador.

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I made a commitment to share the message of self-love and what it truly means throughout February on Social Media, share a blog post, and host a self-love circle. I have been posting on my Facebook site (www.facebook.com/SusiesInsights/ ) every day in February a message of self-love.

I also started reading Christine’s book Madly In Love With Me. In her book, Christine talks about a utopia world of love, where every girl born on this planet is born in love and stays in love with herself – not in an egotistical way, but in a way where she does not judge herself by external standards. Instead she feels safe, loved, cared for, more than enough, just because she is who she is. With this mindset, eating disorders, and tolerating abusive relationships  do not exist, as those girls become women who take care of themselves first, without guilt or obligation, and they know that in order to give, they must also receive, which includes self-care.

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Christine later explains her view of self-love can be seen in the form of a tree. There are 10 branches to the self-love tree: acceptance, awareness, care, trust, esteem, compassion and forgiveness, empowerment, expression, honor and respect, pleasure, and the roots of that tree are self-worth.

Aside from my commitment to blog about self-love, I am drawn to comment on this utopia and the self-love tree. My utopia extends this ideal to all human beings. But sometime I feel as the late John Lennon wrote and sang … “maybe I am just a dreamer, but I am not the only one…” but I acknowledge it all starts with ourselves, and thus me.  When I looked through this list of the components of self-love I realized there were several of these that could use a little more attention, and some that were in good shape.

Be the change that you wish to see in the world.’  – Mahatma Gandhi

I recognized that I needed to make some changes in order to start on the path towards this utopia, and it started with me. Self-acceptance rather than seeking acceptance from external sources is a big one for me that really came to light over the past 2 years. All of my life I compared myself with others around me, especially my sisters, who are phenomenal athletes. I worked really hard at everything I did, and was good at pretty much everything I took on, but I was never ‘the best’ at any one thing. In the circles I was in there was always someone better. I witnessed my sisters being celebrated for their various sporting accomplishments, and I am very proud of them. But I wanted that recognition and celebration for me. So I worked harder, pushed harder, trying to be ‘the best’.  Because of this I did not celebrate my accomplishments, or take notice of all the things I was good at. In my mind, being the best was celebrated by everyone – everyone took notice of who was the best. But I have come to realize is that being the best is short-lived, and doesn’t not mean anything if you, yourself are not enjoying the journey or the accomplishment.

When I took stock of all that I did and accomplished when doing so much, it really was an eye opener for me. When I started to accept myself for who I was and took the ‘yeah, buts…’ out of the internal conversation, and really recognized my accomplishments and felt them, I was softer and kinder to myself, proud of myself. Now, I continually looking for those reminders enjoy what I am doing in the moment, and I am so much happier. I still work hard looking to improve, but I have made a vow to me to enjoy what I am doing, even while pushing myself.

I have discovered that there is one thing that I can be ‘best’ at and that is being me. No one else can be better at being me than I can. I have decided to stop trying to be someone else, and to accept me for who I am, while still pushing to grow and become a better me.

I am sharing this, not for the recognition, or even for the commitment I made, but to help others, even if it is one other person. Review the self-love tree that Christine has presented, and identify for you what branches may need some little extra attention so that you can grow to be the best you that you can be, and enjoy the journey along the way. There will never be another you. Enjoy you with all your heart.

If this sparks some interest in you, go to my Facebook page (www.facebook.com/SusiesInsights/) , like my page and share your comments on how you are treating yourself today.

Choose Self-Love.

Anger – How are you handling it?

Anger… such a strong emotion. Something we all feel from time to time, but I suspect you were also told to “just deal with it and move on.” But how many of us have been taught how to really deal with this emotion that is healthy?

Some have learned to express it through violence, while some others have learned to suppress it through some activity that becomes an anesthetic rather than actually feeling the emotion – like food, alcohol, drugs, sex, even exercise – which, for the most part, some of these in moderation can be a healthy distraction. However, a lot of suppression can lead to addictions.

But is the answer to suppress it, stuff it down, or take it out on someone else? Or is there a better way to regain your power? Would it be better to just deal with the emotion?

As I mentioned in previous blogs, our emotions are our feedback mechanism, whether we choose to ‘listen’ to them or not. Recognize and acknowledge that you do feel wronged in some way, whether by someone else or even yourself. Take responsibility for how you are feeling.

Below is a little trick that I have learned that may help some of you.

When faced with this lower energy emotion:

  1. In the best way that you can, remove yourself from the trigger and get to a safe place. Staying in the immediate situation may only add fuel to the anger and that would not help the situation.
  2. Give yourself permission to feel what you are feeling. Consider where you are feeling this emotion in your body. Scan your body, and find where you are holding on to this anger.
  3. Then choose to release it, as holding on to this lower energy just builds up the resentment.Use visualization to vent that anger or frustration. Picture a bubble in front of you; and with every part of your body, scream at that bubble, venting this anger. As you are screaming imagine this dark energy leaving your body, filling up that bubble.  Continue to do this until all the anger has left your body, particularly from where you were feeling it in your body, knowing that it no longer serves you to hold on to that emotion. Let out that anger and fill that bubble.
  4. Now that you have released the energy from your body, take back any of your power that you may have lost by holding onto that anger.Imagine a second bubble, a bright beautiful golden bubble, alongside the dark bubble, with a filter between them. Picture that bright golden bubble acting like a vacuum as it starts to pull your power from the dark bubble, through the filter into the golden bubble, leaving behind the dark energy.

    Once all your power is in the golden bubble, imagine that bright golden bubble breaking away from the dark bubble and floating over your head. Once it is directly over you, it pops and showers you with its golden light, but also coats you with your power. You can feel your body absorbing your power, returning your power to you. Take the time to feel that power returning to you, particularly filling up those spaces where you were holding on to the lower energy.

    Now imagine that other dark bubble floating away from you. When it is almost out of sight, you see it popping, and disintegrating into the earth, knowing that this anger no longer has any power over you.

    Feel how it feels now having your power, and no longer holding onto that anger.

  5. When you are ready, come back to your current reality. Check in with yourself. How are you feeling now?

This technique can work for any lower emotion, not just anger. Try it out and I would love to hear about how it may or may not have helped you in anyway.

And now that you have allowed it, release it and regained your power (in a way that does not harm anyone, including yourself), you can take it a step further, dig deeper and come to an understanding of what  this lower emotion was trying to tell you. This is where a Life Coach can help you obtain clarity into what message this emotion was bringing to you. Obtaining this clarity helps you identify choices that you can make: one that may empower you, and bring you closer to your goals or desires, or ones that keep you where you are.

Again, I would love to receive your thoughts, and feedback through the form below and or in the FaceBook group.

‘Till next time, allow yourself to feel your emotions, and not suppress them as they are your guidance system. Stand in your power, knowing that you do have a choice.

Judgement – who is it serving?

In the last couple of weeks I heard a lot from others saying “Oh, I wish <this person> would stop doing <this>’, or ‘would do <that>’, whether it be someone talking about their husband/ wife, friends, co-workers, boss or even their children. From what I have learned this is placing judgment, whether conscious or not, on others for what they may or may not have done.

In learning about the Universal Law – the Law of Allowing – there is a component of allowing others to be who they are. There are two ways to apply the Law of Allowing, which is: 1 – how you allow the Universe to deliver to you what you have been asking for; and 2 – allowing yourself and others to be who they are. Abraham-Hick’s sums up the second part of the Law of Allowing through the statement “I am that which I am, and while I am that which I am, I allow others to be that which they are.” In other words, accepting of yourself, as well as allowing others to be who they are.

However, allowing others to be who they are is not about tolerating them, or even accepting their behaviors. But it is about recognizing that they are in a place in their lives that they – deliberately or not – have chosen to be in, and accepting that of them. They are where they are right now, as you are where you are right now. No one truly knows what another person is actually going through in their lives. Consider that, while you are allowing others to be who they are, you still have the choice whether to be around them, or not, and that passing judgment impacts you more than it impacts them.

This can be prevalent in team environments: whether sports, work, or any other type of teams. The nature of the team is that we tend to rely on others to reach a particular goal. In doing so, you more than likely have set certain beliefs for yourself, as to how you and your teammates ‘should’ act. Holding these beliefs for others can certainly become frustrating when any of the others do not display the behaviors you think they ‘should’. While you may be okay with this belief for youself, consider that it may not be right for the others. I certainly have come to learn this!

Consider, that maybe, by expecting people to behave a certain way you are placing your joy and happiness into the hands of others. By doing this you may be giving up some of your own personal power of experiencing joy and in fact, strip you of your own freedom. Leaving your joy up to another person may or may not work out the way you hope. So take your power back, empower yourself to feel your own joy.

This may be easier said than done, especially if you have learned and practiced this habit over several years. However, with this new found awareness, as you find yourself judging another person, stop yourself, get quiet, and consider asking yourself the following questions:

  • Who are you ‘hurting’ by passing this judgment?
  • Could there be an aspect of your life that you are judging yourself?
  • How much do you beat yourself up for making a ‘mistake?
  • How much do you praise yourself for your good choices and/or your successes?
  • Where do you choose to focus?

I challenge you for the next 5 days to focus on your successes by journaling about your daily successes by following the steps below:

Step 1: Before journaling, write down how you are feeling between 1 and 10 (1 low; 10 high).

Step 2: Then, list 10 things you are grateful for during that day. As you are writing each gratitude, stop and recall the event, and feel the gratitude. Try not to write the same gratitude as the day before, unless the event occurred in each day.

Step 3: Write 5 personal successes for yourself. Start small if you find you are struggling to write 5. But recognize and feel the success inside your body, notice where in your body you feel each success.

In doing this, if you find that that little voice starting to criticize your gratitudes and or successes by saying something like “Yeah right, that is not a success. You ‘should’ have done this or that”, choose to place these thoughts that are not serving you into a bubble and let them float away. Choose to focus on the gratitude and successes and how they feel, even if it is just for now.

Step 4: Repeat step 1 – write down how you are now feeling between 1 and 10.  Is there any difference from step 1?

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In closing, I wish you all a fantastic week, with high vibrations. Happy journaling.